2 years ago this time my feet were in the chilling waters of The Ganga. They say the experience you get there can never be expressed nor translated into words. Even if you did, you would reach an accuracy level lesser than 100! Ice melts from the Himalayas and this purest from of water runs through the mountains .. as cold as they are when it touches your feet, your mind goes so blank. Perhaps the bliss people seek for.
On these banks you would find small slots/caves which open to Ganga and end in the mountain. Yes the only opening for air to come in and go out! Crazy creatures stay here .. hehehe .. long tangled hairs, face unshaved since ages and body barely covered. Crazy people! .. How do they survive? Were they born to careless parents who dropped them away? Have they ever felt what love is like? Does growth in the material world have any sense for these hermits? What could be more surprising than the face filled with content, even when they have nothing at their disposal with regards to what we all probably have! Aint it? We have so many around us who care about us, love us. We got dreams. Every day of ours is filled with some excitement or the other yet how discontent are we from within! Have you ever thought? Think for a while.
We dont like the food mama gives us. Are not happy about the gifts we receive. Feel so sad about our own belongings the moment we see the other one with better pieces. Fight with the ones who love us the most. Fail to realize the love we are surrounded with. Creating moments of despair always. I guess somehow we inculcate the habit of making the water around us salty and then saying "water water everywhere but not a drop to drink".
The question of what makes them so content does remain!
A child when born to a mother is one of the amazing and painful times for both of them. Both of them struggle and once they cross the barrier they attain freedom. It clings to the mother. The mother loves the child as it loves no one else. Perhaps its designed to be that way. Gradually with time the child starts to walk and then to speak. The truth of attraction starts to decline. The love does stay for ever and cant be questioned however the intensity does decline. The child when it was very small used to be fed by the mother and assumes the same would happen even when it grows up till a point when hes rebuked. One day when the mother asks the child to feed on his own, the child feels bad. On the contrary, in case of an orphan the same treatment turns into a blessing. What would you call this? Same states going good and bad both at the same time.
We could question why did the mothers own child feel so bad? Perhaps because it assumed that he would be fed and that was the mental picture he was living with. He would have been happy if it had happened the way he perceived it. The expectation! The moment it doesn’t happen the way he expected, the mother turns bad. Thereby follows the justification cycle which the mind plays to satisfy how the mothers action was bad! For the orphan, it never had the privilege to have any expectations. It never knew what a mother was like, what food was like. For this orphan it was probably one of his life’s greatest surprise! He was happy and will probably always be; lest the expectations start developing in time.
Expectations have no limitations and are an outcome of the elevated thoughts of the mind with regards to any relationship. Yes everything has to be there. There has to be a relationship, could be any. There have to be some assumptions and these turn out to be expectations! If the expectations are matched relationships turn out to be great else the intensity of attraction declines over a period of time. Now that can possibly be proven by the fact that every new surprise moment is always a great moment. And every time you expect something from somebody and that doesn’t happen the way you thought it leads to disaster! And you possibly say "I never expected this". We could further categorize these expectations into negative and positive though! I could have done this if I were writing a book on Managing Expectations, however that is far below on my priority list !!
The child would continue to be unhappy with the mother always and every meeting would be a disaster leading both of them to an unhappy state. Both of them loose at the same time for the loose out on the rarity of life. Both of them gain at the same time for they gain bitterness for the other within themselves. However for the orphan, which does not have the advantage to have expectations, everything comes as a surprise .. a great moment is created every moment. Great Expectations as dickens writes; ends up with Pip realizing greatest bliss of his life in small things where there are no place for any expectations... Estella was it I guess.
Anyways, Dame Edith Evans, says "I can't imagine going on when there are no more expectations." and that’s true to a certain extent for without expectations nothing can exist. Everything ceases. But one may not expect all the expectations to be fulfilled.. if by any chance some expectations fail it could be probably voiced out.
What more can I expect from you dear, for I don’t have any and i cant have any. For that allows me to be in a state of bliss. Selfish again I am as ever.
May be Alexander Pope was right when he said, 'Blessed is the man who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed'. Simple words are they but over a period of time I kind of realized that words would make no sense if you just read and understand it or its imposed on you by someone else, its got to be realized from within.
Realization of this simple thing might just lead you to an instant bliss... Am no more wondered by the sages who have no signs of being content on their faces... may be that’s the mystery they have been trying to express. The hermit continues to pray all his life to The Absolute however never attains Him .. yet is in a state of bliss ... which can possibly be attained through realization. A lot more lies within in fact. Yet this small mind of mine is limited to the comprehension of infinitesimally small elements that govern the dynamics of things...
On these banks you would find small slots/caves which open to Ganga and end in the mountain. Yes the only opening for air to come in and go out! Crazy creatures stay here .. hehehe .. long tangled hairs, face unshaved since ages and body barely covered. Crazy people! .. How do they survive? Were they born to careless parents who dropped them away? Have they ever felt what love is like? Does growth in the material world have any sense for these hermits? What could be more surprising than the face filled with content, even when they have nothing at their disposal with regards to what we all probably have! Aint it? We have so many around us who care about us, love us. We got dreams. Every day of ours is filled with some excitement or the other yet how discontent are we from within! Have you ever thought? Think for a while.
We dont like the food mama gives us. Are not happy about the gifts we receive. Feel so sad about our own belongings the moment we see the other one with better pieces. Fight with the ones who love us the most. Fail to realize the love we are surrounded with. Creating moments of despair always. I guess somehow we inculcate the habit of making the water around us salty and then saying "water water everywhere but not a drop to drink".
The question of what makes them so content does remain!
A child when born to a mother is one of the amazing and painful times for both of them. Both of them struggle and once they cross the barrier they attain freedom. It clings to the mother. The mother loves the child as it loves no one else. Perhaps its designed to be that way. Gradually with time the child starts to walk and then to speak. The truth of attraction starts to decline. The love does stay for ever and cant be questioned however the intensity does decline. The child when it was very small used to be fed by the mother and assumes the same would happen even when it grows up till a point when hes rebuked. One day when the mother asks the child to feed on his own, the child feels bad. On the contrary, in case of an orphan the same treatment turns into a blessing. What would you call this? Same states going good and bad both at the same time.
We could question why did the mothers own child feel so bad? Perhaps because it assumed that he would be fed and that was the mental picture he was living with. He would have been happy if it had happened the way he perceived it. The expectation! The moment it doesn’t happen the way he expected, the mother turns bad. Thereby follows the justification cycle which the mind plays to satisfy how the mothers action was bad! For the orphan, it never had the privilege to have any expectations. It never knew what a mother was like, what food was like. For this orphan it was probably one of his life’s greatest surprise! He was happy and will probably always be; lest the expectations start developing in time.
Expectations have no limitations and are an outcome of the elevated thoughts of the mind with regards to any relationship. Yes everything has to be there. There has to be a relationship, could be any. There have to be some assumptions and these turn out to be expectations! If the expectations are matched relationships turn out to be great else the intensity of attraction declines over a period of time. Now that can possibly be proven by the fact that every new surprise moment is always a great moment. And every time you expect something from somebody and that doesn’t happen the way you thought it leads to disaster! And you possibly say "I never expected this". We could further categorize these expectations into negative and positive though! I could have done this if I were writing a book on Managing Expectations, however that is far below on my priority list !!
The child would continue to be unhappy with the mother always and every meeting would be a disaster leading both of them to an unhappy state. Both of them loose at the same time for the loose out on the rarity of life. Both of them gain at the same time for they gain bitterness for the other within themselves. However for the orphan, which does not have the advantage to have expectations, everything comes as a surprise .. a great moment is created every moment. Great Expectations as dickens writes; ends up with Pip realizing greatest bliss of his life in small things where there are no place for any expectations... Estella was it I guess.
Anyways, Dame Edith Evans, says "I can't imagine going on when there are no more expectations." and that’s true to a certain extent for without expectations nothing can exist. Everything ceases. But one may not expect all the expectations to be fulfilled.. if by any chance some expectations fail it could be probably voiced out.
What more can I expect from you dear, for I don’t have any and i cant have any. For that allows me to be in a state of bliss. Selfish again I am as ever.
May be Alexander Pope was right when he said, 'Blessed is the man who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed'. Simple words are they but over a period of time I kind of realized that words would make no sense if you just read and understand it or its imposed on you by someone else, its got to be realized from within.
Realization of this simple thing might just lead you to an instant bliss... Am no more wondered by the sages who have no signs of being content on their faces... may be that’s the mystery they have been trying to express. The hermit continues to pray all his life to The Absolute however never attains Him .. yet is in a state of bliss ... which can possibly be attained through realization. A lot more lies within in fact. Yet this small mind of mine is limited to the comprehension of infinitesimally small elements that govern the dynamics of things...
4 comments:
beautiful.i wonder the way you look at things.great!
hey thts a real sweet thought...
Akanksha Saxena.
Its this expectation that motivates us to reach greater heights.. bt when we fail to reach there (may be in initially..) it starts hurting .. not just us but those around us too.. still we gotto try n try ;) n finally reach there and fulfill those expectations :) Managing and FULFILLING Expectations.
yaar tum kitna gehra sochte ho.
Amazing.
Prachi jain
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